What do you think the best way to use a pocket-sized notebook, diary, journal ,and planner is? What about along with smartphone?

Do you think the analog method like using a pocket-sized notebook, diary, journal, and planner notebook with pen or pencil can coexist with the digital one like using Smartphone in the digital age?

A pocket-sized notebook, diary, journal, and planner notebook with pen or pencil can be used for various uses such as agenda and time management, and memo.

When I asked people the questions like ”what do you think the best way to use a pocket-sized notebook, diary, journal, and planner is?” and “what about along with Smartphone?”, some people strongly supported the use of a pocket-sized notebook, diary, journal, and planner notebook with pen or pencil, but some people empathized the importance of the use of software as follows:

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From: Andrew Gordon(Coordinator, Social Media at National Summer Learning Association)

Date: April 1, 2010
To: Michael Chang
I’ve always had good luck with Moleskines. They’re professional looking and durable.

As to using them, if you haven’t seen this post yet by Mike Rohde, you should. He’s turned his Moleskine into a custom weekly planner.

I’ve done the same with a pocket-size, too. It works. Hope this helps.

Links:http://www.rohdesign.com/weblog/archives/001850.html

Here’s the full size: http://apgordon.com/2010/03/11/poor-mans-moleskine/
And the pocket size: http://apgordon.com/2010/03/16/the-poor-mans-moleskine-part-2-pocket-sized/

From: Corey Tyhurst( Associate Manager at Procter & Gamble, Canada)
Date: April 2, 2010
To: Michael Chang

I have recently switched from using a standard notebook to using Microsoft OneNote 2007 for all of my meeting notes. It provides a great way to organize notes, set tasks in outlook for later, or link important pieces of information together.

Pros:
-Eliminates the need for a paper notebook
-Full integration with the entire Office Suite
-Makes it very easy to send meeting notes or agendas to colleagues
-Affordable (It’s approx. $150 for a personal version, I paid $55 for my corporate license)
-You can integrate it with your Windows based smart phone or iphone

Cons:
-If Gmail is your main email platform, there is no integration features, but obviously still works with Word/Excel/PPT
-You have to have a netbook or laptop with you at all times (I personally was always carrying around a laptop AND a notebook, so this wasn’t a con for me)
-You have to ensure you back up your files consistently because you will no longer have a paper record or your notes.

Links:

From: Richard Bott( Minister at St. Andrew’s Haney United Church (of Canada))
Date: April 1, 2010
To: Michael Chang
I love my smartphone (thank you, Google!), but I find that keeping text-based notes on it is difficult for me to do. On a normal-sized keyboard, I type faster than I write… but I don’t have an “instant on” computer.

So I carry a pocket-sized notebook to keep my ongoing ‘to-do’ list in, with the back half of it set aside for taking quick notes in improptu conversations.

From: Christine Hueber(Social Media Relationship Marketing Consultant at StorageFolsom.com)

Date: April 1, 2010
To: Michael Chang

I prefer to use a smartphone whenever possible because then what I want is in the same place.

I would use the former for more ritualized notes.
From: Kim Ervin(Outreach Team Member at Microsoft)

Date: April 2, 2010
To: Michael Chang

@Corey — Thank you so much for suggesting OneNote for Michael. OneNote is a tremendous way to organize and track notes, easily scan through them with search tools, and integrate with other Office documents. We’d love to have your voice and experience in the Microsoft Office LinkedIn Group. You can join the community, here:http://bit.ly/Lp5CA .

Cheers,
Kim
Microsoft Office Outreach

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As well known, surely, the software has advantages, but what about sketching and generating ideas, and creating a story? Do you think it is possible to do them without paper and pen or pencil?

In this respect, I would like to say that I prefer paper and pen or pencil.

Whenever I carried on a consulting project, I sketched its framework on paper and explained about that to my team members. I can’t forget how easily they understand my messages.

I would like to show two-page spread format of my notebook for generating ideas about some issue  as follows:

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Who mentored you?

Growing up, were there people in your life who helped you internally communicate with yourself, create your dream(vision), set and successfully implement your goals, and finally become the person you are today?

Think about family members, a spiritual leader, a teacher or coach, a neighbor, a boss, a colleague, or family friend; those people were mentors to you.

Thank them!

Please leave your comment in consideration of the following answers in order to share it with other people in the world.

From: Susie Marks Watt (Associate Dean for General Studies at ITT Technical Institute )

Date: March 15, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Many, including relatives and friends, bosses and co-workers, but as a lifelong educator, I must say that much of the most valuable learning brought home to me, about myself, about life, and about my profession, I learned from my students. They continue to contribute to my growth, and I am ever thankful.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
From: Pegine Echevarria(CEO/President at Team Pegine Inc.)
Date: March 14, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Mom – Became highest ranking Latina in her field. Mentored men, women and was an incredible role model for many, including me.

Alan Roth – the toughest SOB in sales. He was brilliant, tough, didn’t take any crap and most importantly made me a terrific sales person.

Pedro Bautista – Madrid Spain. taught me business. Believed in my concept and invested in me. A True Entrepreneur

Grandfather – never met him but learned about determination, persistence and believing in oneself from the stories my family shared about him.

Members of my professional associations, members of my master mind group. LOTS of authors who shared their wisdom through books.

Private Note:
Great question. Hope you get lots of responses.

From: Peggy DeMouthe( Freelance Writer at Northern California)
Date: March 15, 2010
To: Michael Chang
When I started in adversing as a copy secretary (before “administrative assistants” existed), I had free access to some of the great minds in the business. They were the original “mad men” and women–and they passed on the history of the business as well as their knowledge. They gave me my first breaks and taught me how to deal with everything from writer’s block to fussy clients, and made me confident about taking risks.

I wish I had kept the draft of a radio script I did for a long-gone Levi Strauss product line called Sierra Humps. Mike Koelker just wrote across the top of the page: “Make this weirder.” Now that’s encouragement!

From: Kumuda Gururao Ph.D. (Social Media Learning / Marketing and Management Consultant at Advisor2U, India)

Date: March 15, 2010
To: Michael Chang
My Prof. Dr.Raja Ganesan from University of Madras, India played a very important role in my career. After my Ph.D, when I was about to relax for some time (long time), he allowed me to relax for few days and said I should keep up the momentum, and urged me to continue my quest for learning, research, innovation etc.

His constant encouragement made be
• publish books,
• participate in International Conferences
• Publish articles in professional journals
• Win laurels and awards

My family and friends were very cooperative and offered continuous encouragement to my efforts.

From: Bill Nigh(Experienced, productive, and affable IT professional)
Date: March 14, 2010
To: Michael Chang
No one. I wish I had had mentors, but it never happened. My life and career have turned out just fine, but your question made me wonder how different things would have been.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
From: Sandy McMillan(Independent Trainer & Coach, United Kingdom)
Date: March 15, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Many people did and I hope I thanked them enough.

‘Mutual Mentoring’ works and Linked In is a good place to find the other person. Google MM to get some useful references.

On 3/15/10 3:53 AM, Sandy McMillan added the following clarification:
Good reference on Mutual Mentoring at http://www.ruthschimel.com/documents/MentoringforMutualBenefit.pdf

From: Don Waskiewicz(Owner at Deep Blue Insights, LLC)

Date: March 15, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Interesting question. I have had many over the years although a few were significantly more influential than others. Some of them may have intentionally sought to instruct me while others either negatively or positively taught through their actions. Some I have thanked in person, others may never realize the significance of their influence. In turn, I enjoy acting as the mentor, and I do so without ever expecting anything in return. I think the reward is in seeing your influence contribute to these individual’s success.  
                                                                                                                                                                             
From: Warren Orlans(Canadian Tax Manager at Computershare, Canada)
 Date: March 18, 2010
To: Michael Chang
When I was working at the Federal government I led a project to create a mentoring program for the tax office I worked in. I ran the program for 3 years and had the pleasure of being mentored by 2 senior managers, on in audit and one in collections. The most valuable mentoring relationship I had was an informal one, over 5 years, with the consultant we hired, Kathy Conway, as she helped me understand life in the public service and how to help others achieve their goals. She also insisted I become a mentor both inside and outside the government. It helped me quite a lot. If I knew where Kathy was today I would thank her. I attached a link to her book. It is wonderful.
http://books.google.com/books?id=OiBOoAJU54QC&pg=RA1-PT1&lpg=RA1-PT1&dq=kathy+conway+virtual+communications&source=bl&ots=FGkFjBVpHJ&sig=ENEDrD3SaTfkF1_QgL5rkGYejpI&hl=en&ei=goqiS9nZHJKYtgeek8T9CQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CAYQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=kathy%20conway%20virtual%20communications&f=false

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What do you think the best way for an effective communication about life between parents and their young(or grown-up) children is?

There may be conflicts and discrepancies between boomer parents and their children(or adolescents) named as the Net Generation by Don Tapscott in his book of “Grown up Digital(2009)”. Don Tapscott recommends us to have a family dinner to talk about values with kids.

Let’s think about this question in consideration of the following answers. If you have some idea or opinion about the above question, please leave your comment in consideration of the following answers in order to share it with other people in the world.

From: Shammi Malik( Senior Manager (Lubes) at Indian Oil Corporation Limited, India)

Date: March 11, 2010
To: Michael Chang
A discussion over dinner surely helps. I have made a habit of having dinner with the whole family seated together. Many things get discussed at that time and communication gaps are not there.

 From: Don Wilcox (Professor at Algonquin College, Canada)

Date: March 11, 2010
To: Michael Chang
We’ve always tried to be honest and open. If they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to receive an answer … age-appropriate perhaps, but we don’t avoid answering just because it’s uncomfortable. And, we always make sure the communication is two-way, not just parent-to-child (or teen, whatever).
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
From: Susan Shwartz PhD(Harvard University) 
Date: March 16, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Honesty, respect, keeping the family together.
                                                                                                                                                                       

From: Merydith W (Developing next generation leaders: New York & Adelaide at IB Coaching)

Date: March 11, 2010
To: Michael Chang
The most important thing a parent can learn about their children is to learn what the child’s brain is capable of. Adult brain isn’t so until 26 yet many of us don’t know that and sadly we treat kids like adults and expect them to be able to function in that realm.

Books
Sex in the Boardroom (leadership development)
If it’s to be: It’s up to me
Back from Hell

Merydith had an article published in The Washington Post giving leaders tips on how to manage in the financial crisis

From: jean marsing
Date: March 11, 2010
To: Michael Chang
There is nothing better than communicating in a car.
                                                                                                                                                                                           
From: rajjak sheikh( Financial Controller at Buchen IRM Abdul Aal WLL)
Date: March 11, 2010
To: Michael Chang
the best way is choose a weekly topic on each relevant subject which concerns society in general and your family in particular for a group discussion after dinner, if family is staying together otherwise do it through internet/ chatting.
                                                                                                                                                                                                         
From: Wallace Jackson(Multimedia Producer at MindTaffy Design)
Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
There is nothing better than communicating in a boat.
                                                                                                                                                                                      
From: J. Renee Gordon( Human Capital Architect at E Squared)
Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Wait until you are ask. Communication is always most effective when both parties are open to it. Learning to listen is imperative to knowing how to respond. Raised four sons…none are in therapy or jail.

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What would you like to say for the young generation graduating from university or college and starting careers?

When we think about the current global economic environment in the wake of the financial crisis, the young people graduating from university or college and starting careers  have more tough issues in comparison with the older generation, specially their parents generation.

Let us think about what we can say for them! If you have some idea or opinion about the above question, please leave your comment in consideration of the following answers in order to share it with other people in the world.

From: Pat Meehan(President at The Meehan Group)

Date: March 7, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Hi  Michael,

I would say …

“Your whole career is a conversation. Your whole career and life is your connection to many other people through the network of relationships that you have continually developed each day over time. Networking is a connection with people and groups of people that grows harmoniously throughout your life, and creates an endless chain of limitless opportunities for you and the world around you.”

All the best,
Pat

 
From: Susan Shwartz PhD(Harvard University) 
Date: March 16, 2010
To: Michael Chang
 
 
You are more than your job, more than your title, more than your income: you are -you-. Yes, you must be self-sufficient, so you need to learn job-hunting as well as work.

But they are nothing without getting yourself a life.

High motivation, low expectations, and a good work ethic. It’s not easy, but it works.

From: Tom Kearney(President, Business Strategist at Building Profit)
Date: March 7, 2010
To: Michael Chang                                                                          
Congrats, but life goes by very quickly.
So … use your degree only as a tool to accomplish what you want out of life.
Prioritize your needs: friends, family, religion, money, health, status symbols like a house and car, etc.

Then, set measureable goals & benchmarks on each of them.

It’s too easy, in the daily grind of work, life and relationships to loose sight of what your really want out of life – REMAIN FOCUSED on the bigger picture! Good Luck.

From: David Mitchel(Vice President of Marketing at Norton Mitchel Marketing)
Date: March 7, 2010
To: Michael Chang
I would keep it pretty simple.

Work smart. Be proactive in your career development. Make the most of your working relationships. Work to achieve the highest degree of success.

Most importantly, maintain a work-life balance. Have fun. Enjoy yourself.

From: Kelly Feil(President at The Kellyn Group, LLC)
Date: March 7, 2010
To: Michael Chang                               
 Have patience and realize that life will teach you if you are willing to listen. Learning should not stop with your formal education. That first job, the first boss, all the frustrations… you may look back later and realize what the universe was teaching you. Embrace opportunity in all forms!
                                                               
From: Dave Maskin(The WireMan at WireNames.com)
Date: March 7, 2010
To: Michael Chang
 
Welcome to reality…
Unfortunately, with too few jobs and too many folks looking for jobs, you must be persistent in your job search…

If you have the capacity to start your own business, this is the time to do it…

From: Vince Pizzoni( Head of Professional Guidance at The Cheltenham Ladies’ College)

Date: March 13, 2010

To: Michael Chang
Stay positive, work hard, be persistent, always play to your strengths, listen and learn, take risks.           
                                                                                      
From: Subhasis Banerji (Research Associate at Nanyang Technological University, Singapore)
Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
I would say “Welcome to the REAL world” :

You can come into this world with the attitude of making a positive change with whatever talents you have, or you can enter it with the insecurity and pettiness that characterises many corporate cultures. Before you decide how much money you want to make and how soon, decide whether you want to make a change or you are OK with being changed. There will be a constant struggle between the two and so……good luck to you.

Instead of focussing on one goal for yourself, learn to live with two goals – working for your own progress AND working for the benefit of others/society. This will make you grow faster than you think, enable you to leave a legacy in your field of work and push the limits of your potential.

Most importantly, you will be happy no matter what crisis.

From: Phyllis Reardon (President at CoachPhyllis.com Inc)
Date: March 8, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Keep learning. Learnin is life long.
                                                                                                                                                                             
From: Angela Calkins (Faculty/Administrator at The Wright Institute)
Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
I whole heartedly agree with Phyllis. Life is short and one should never want to stop learning and growing. I would also say for the person to look at what are the values and principles they want to live by and how are they going to do that? I think we get to cynical and fall into beliefs things can’t change. I also think we have lost what it means to have employer and employee loyalty. I think that is important. It is about mutuality and not just “what’s in it for me”.

I would also encourage someone to read Judith Wright’s book The One Decision. I have found when I focus on my one decision- I am a stand for truth- it helps guide me in all my decisions and it makes life a little easier.

From: Christine Hueber(CEO at ChristineHueber.com)

Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Do your best and enjoy what you do.
                                                                                                                                                                                
From: Peter Taylor (President at North American Artisans, LLC)
Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
If there is one thing that I would like to say to the younger generation, that is graduating from high school or college and joining the work force, it is that whatever your niche in the business world, I hope that you understand how essential and important your job truly is and perform it with pride every day that you go to work. If you are an entrepreneur, I wish you the best of luck in business and if you are sweeping floors, I hope that you sweep every nook and cranny. Just remember, that if there’s one person who can appreciate and take pride in your work, it’s you. Do your best in everything you do and stay confident, and I promise that you will advance; not only in your career, but in your life.
You have the ultimate power to believe in yourself, Michael. Belief and persistence is the clearest path to success.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
      
From: Subhasis Banerji( Research Associate at Nanyang Technological University,  Singapore)
Date:March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
I would say “Welcome to the REAL world” :

You can come into this world with the attitude of making a positive change with whatever talents you have, or you can enter it with the insecurity and pettiness that characterises many corporate cultures. Before you decide how much money you want to make and how soon, decide whether you want to make a change or you are OK with being changed. There will be a constant struggle between the two and so……good luck to you.

Instead of focussing on one goal for yourself, learn to live with two goals – working for your own progress AND working for the benefit of others/society. This will make you grow faster than you think, enable you to leave a legacy in your field of work and push the limits of your potential.

Most importantly, you will be happy no matter what crisis. 

From: Vince Pizzoni(Head of Professional Guidance at The Cheltenham Ladies’ College, United Kingdom)
Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Stay positive, work hard, be persistent, always play to your strengths, listen and learn, take risks.                             
                                                     
From: Elliot Echlov (Sr. IT Support Analyst at BlueCross BlueShield of South Carolina)
 Date: March 13, 2010
To: Michael Chang
Congratulations. Now you are ready to start learning the things you’ll need to know to have a successful career. There will be people who will help you do this and people who will try to keep you from doing this. The biggest challenge you will face over the next 3-5 years is figuring out which people belong in those categories because you are going to have to work with all of them.

And always wear sunscreen.(http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/columnists/chi-schmich-sunscreen-column,0,4054576.column)

From: June R. Massoud

  • Computer Engineer and Consultant at Self-Employed
  • Teacher and Substitute Teacher at English School Boards in Montreal
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    Date: March 13, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Have new interests outside your chosen profession or vocation, develop emotional intelligence, always expect the unexpected, expect the least and do the most, don’t be greedy, don’t chase money as the only reason for your existence, help those in need, don’t be selfish, collaboration is always better than competition and by the way, if you say all this in your valedictory speech, make sure you quote the source. Thank you.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           

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    How to find a nice cafe or a restaurant where people in the world can meet someday in order to share their valuable experiences and ideas about life?

    I’m dreaming that  someday we can meet at a  cafe or a restaurant in order to share our valuable experiences and ideas about life.

    If you have a good idea about how to find a nice cafe or a restaurant where people in the world can meet someday in order to share their valuable experiences and ideas about life, please leave your good comment in consideration of the following answers in order to share it with other people  in the world. 

    From: Michael Ver Duin(General Manager at Ver Duin’s Inc.)

    Date:  February 19, 2010

    To: Michael Chang
    I suggest K2 in Grand Haven, Michigan during the summer. We’re a great little town. They have a great selection of micro-brews, wood fired pizzas, a great view of the musical fountain and our piers. I might be a little biased though.
    http://www.thegilmorecollection.com/k2woodfiredpizzeria.html
                                                                                                                                                      
    From: Christine Hueber(CEO at ChristineHueber.com)
    Date: February 19, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
                                                                                     
    What a lovely question, thank you!

    I would say Capo, in Santa Monica.

     (http://www.caporestaurant.com/)

    From: Victoria Ring(President at 713Attorney)
    Date: February 19, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
                                                                                  
    What’s wrong with the conference room in the back of Panara Bread?(http://www.panerabread.com/)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
                               
    From: DAVE MASKIN(The WireMan at WireNames.com)
    Date: February 19, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
                                                 
    Michael, I don’t think there is a cafe, restaurant, stadium or city big enough to accommodate “the world”…

    But if you’re looking for a nice place for a few folks to meet every once in awhile, “The Suburban Diner” in beautiful Paramus, New Jersey is the place to be… Good food, nice wait staff, a pleasant time will be had by all…

    I’m not being paid to say all these nice things, by the way…

    Cheers…

    On 2/19/10 10:18 PM, DAVE MASKIN added the following clarification:
    Actually Victoria, there’s a Panara Bread Restaurant right inside the “Paramus Park Shopping Mall”…

    See you there… :<)

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    What is the best way to communicate with oneself?

     If you have some idea or opinion about the above question, please leave your good comment in consideration of the following answers in order to share it with other people  in the world.                                 

    From: David Winter(Careers Adviser at The Careers Group, University of London)

    Date: February 17, 2010

    To: Michael Chang

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                

    Interesting question.

    I’m not sure that there is one best way. Here are some ways that I can think of.

    Cultivate stillness
    Mindfulness practice (meditation) can help to still the chatter of thoughts that might distract us from hearing the important thoughts. Mindfulness is focusing your attention on the here-and-now. Letting go of past regrets and future worries to immerse yourself in the moment.

    Hear others
    Find yourself reflected in other people. Observe how people respond you you. Ask people to tell you about yourself. Hold their ideas as working hypotheses that you can set out to test.

    Identify your multiplicity
    You are likely to be a different person in each of the social situations you inhabit. Each of these people will have different views, thoughts, opinions, feelings. Record these thoughts while you are in the situation. Read them when you are in another situation.

    Communicate over time
    Write down your thoughts, feelings, goals and opinions now. Put them away for a period of time. Revisit them. Visualise yourself a number of years in the future. What do you have to say to yourself in the present.

    From: Scott Byorum(Author at Dooley Downs)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    With respect and reverence. You are a unique individual who never has been and never will be again (except in the quantum multi-verse sense).        
                                                                                                                                          
    From: Bjorn Nilsen(Materials Manager at Global Ground Support)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    With honesty….look at yourself in the mirror, can you stand the sight of that guy? Does he make you uncomfortable? Would he REALLY want to be YOUR friend?
    From: Bruce Serven(Rainmaker at Painted Horse Group Inc.)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    If I remember correctly, communicating with yourself goes against proper netiquette. It also piques the interest of the people in the white lab coats, so be cognizant of when and where you talk to yourself.

    However, if you insist:

    I heard doing it by FAX is a great way to communicate with yourself (see link).

    Amazon (see link) has a book available in case you are in need of topics for your self communication.

    There is also a Kindle book available entitled “How to talk to yourself” which may be of use to you.

    Good luck in communicating with yourself.

    From: Ives De Busser(Packaging Innovation Technologist at Mars)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    I think communicating with thought is the quickest – you can do it in silence or out loud, that does not matter.
    In some cases, writing things down can be of a big help – if there are all kinds of issues in your life and you need to see the light at the end of the tunnel, writing things down in for instance a mindmap can really arrange your thoughts.
    Same goes for things you need to do, on a short term or on a longer term – write them down and strike them through once they are finished – you will not forget anything and you will see the evolution in your tasks…..

    So to conclude, the best way to communicate depends on the message and subject of your communication.

    From: Barry Zweibel(MBA, Master Certified Coach)

    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Kindly, gently, caringly, and lovingly. Then whatever you say, make it meaningful, relevant, insightful, and bullshit-free. If you don’t, you’ll likely stop listening to yourself in very short order.

    Hope that helps.

    From: Tim Tymchyshyn(proud owner of a Jerry Rice/Joe Montana autographed football)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    I talk and answer myself, we all do

    I do it out loud, some just think it over, I talk it out

    those that say they don’t have never listened to themselves

    From: Dave Mason(Owner at Phoenix Signs)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    I’ve always been taught that it is OK to talk to yourself, but that you should be worried if you answer back.

    Adbul – we need to talk.

    From: Praveen kumar Atmakur(Key Account Manager: Sales and Marketing at ZF, Germany)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    A good question! Thank you for asking it!

    We are living in a communication technology era which was never better before. But we still do not know the easy and optimum way to communicate to the NEAREST person we have, i.e SELF.

    The biggest hurdle in a communication is lacking the quality of listeing skills. One need to be a good listners to have a good communication. This works with the SELF too. Often we do not accept what the self speaks to us and supress the self. There by the inner self slowly gets drowned under the superficial public profiles we maintain.

    The easiest way is just to LISTEN to the self with no prejudise. Leave 2 things aside for a while.
    1) the impressions you gathered in this world,
    2) the opinions of others.

    Then try to analyse together with your rational mind and the SELF. one will start comming to terms. With this one will slowly get into a soft and non-complex frequency of communication with the self. This status is the key for PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.

     

    From: Charlene Norman(Whatever it Takes at Volunteer)

    Date: February 17, 2010

    To: Michael Chang
    Candidly.

    Funny isn’t it that most of us do not ARGUE with ourselves?

    From: Rachana Agarwal(Content Writer at Icreon Communications Pvt. Ltd., India)

    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    If you want to get a perfect solution of a situation, it would be important for you to think both the aspects (positive and negative) thoroughly.
    From: Abdul Rahim Hasan(Marketing & Exports at Awal Dairy Company WLL, Bahrain)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Intrapersonal communication is communication with one’s self. It’s unique because you become both the sender and the receiver

    Well, there are various ways for you to communicate with yourself. For instance, day-dreaming, speaking aloud, reading aloud, repeating what you hear, internal monologues (conscious and sub-conscious), writing down your thoughts, making gestures while thinking and communication between your body parts, for example “my tummy is telling me, its time for lunch”.

    One very interesting self-communication method I want to share with you is “Lucid Dreaming”. Here you’re aware that you’re dreaming. You actively participate in and often manipulate the experiences in your dream. Lucid dreaming can be exciting depending on your level of self-awareness.

    From: Richard Derwent Cooke(MD, Change Facilitator at I-Change)

    Date: February 16, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    To tell yourself the truth… tough to really do but hugely rewarding
    From: Judith Angell(Research Program Specialist at State of California)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    For communicating reminders to oneself, I find clear and succinct notes put where I will find them consistently works well (e.g., I hate finding a phone number without the name).
    From: Maureen Kelsey(Senior Global Strategy Consultant and Program Manager at Global Business & Technology Solutions)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Man’s task is to become conscious of the contents that press upward from the unconscious. CG Jung

    Through dreamwork, use of active immagination and meditation.

    From: John Zipp(Director of Education at Foundation for Stress Relief and Education)
    Date: February 15, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Hi Michael,

    There is a great movie called “The Curious Case of Benjamin Button”. In it the main character, played by Brad Pitt, is born really old. As he gets older, he gets younger. So his life is really lived backwards. If you haven’t watched already, I highly recommend renting it. What I loved about the movie is that it shows how lucky we are to still be young and healthy( even if you are older, you still are young). If we realize NOW that we will get old, sick and die someday, then we have the chance to wake up and take advantage of what we can still do. We will live our dreams and not wait for tomorrow, because when tomorrow is here, we might not be.

    In the movie he also talks about it being never to late to change what you are doing. The truth is Michael that is never to late. If you don’t like what you are doing, do something different. Now we might not be able to switch professions or friends or lifestyles immediately, but we can start to take the steps towards that today. One of the main problems people face in life is waiting. I hear people say all the time, “I will get around to doing that later,” or “in couple of years, yes, that’s when I will take my first vacation”. We seem to be a society of waiting, waiting around and you know how they spend most of their lives, waiting.

    One way I control my emotions is through mediation and breathing. I do a mediation that focuses on just the breath. All you do is breathe in and then out through your nose. Each time you do that you count. You count each breath you do, say to 21, and then stop, and do it again. Doing this helps calm the mind. Our mind is like a raging sea during a storm. We need to calm it down. When our mind is always agitated, the little things( like someone pushing in front of you in line) will set you off. To control your emotions you first need a calm and centered mind. What this does is give you a little distance between you and what is happening to you at the time. Then you can choose the way you want to respond, instead of reacting just like an animal.

    Just recently I was putting away some dishes and cut my hand on the corner of a cabinet. For a few seconds I felt myself get really angry, then just as quickly as it came, it left. A few years ago I would have stayed upset for minutes, maybe even hours. Because my mind was so calm to begin with, the wave of anger had no where to go, it had no friends to “surf” with. So it went away.

    Really understanding the impermanence of everything really helps in dealing with the uncertainties of life. Looking back at your own life is a great way to gain perspective. Look at the times in your life that you thought were the worst. You made it through them didn’t you, I mean you are still here right? Since we know the best of times don’t last forever, and neither do the worst, the best thing is not to get too attached to either. Enjoy the good times, but don’t obsess about them, same with the bad. Learn the lessons that need to be learned from the bad times, but then let it go. Realize that they won’t last either.

    I hope that helps some more Michael. Feel free to write back if you need anymore clarification or have any other questions.

    Sending the best,

    Dr. John Zipp

    From: Kris Hill(Postdoc at Dartmouth College)

    Date: February 18, 2010
    To: Michael Chang

     keep a diary of my dreams. I find it an amusing exercise. There are a number of reoccurring themes, and occasionally they do give me a new insight into my waking life.

    I have dreamed of solutions to certain problems, but only remembered them while writing out the typical bizarre elements of a connected dream.

    I think fast and chaotic. I find that writing or speaking my thoughts out loud is a great way to organize, direct, and refine my ideas.

    From: Danielle Sikorski, MHRM(Member of this professional organization at Toastmasters International)

    Date: February 19, 2010
    To: Michael Chang

    By communicating with yourself, do you mean the thoughts you have to yourself or about other people or things?

    Communicating with other people could be an obstacle to communicating with yourself…instead of taking time to think meditate or reflect on our own lives, you could constantly be ‘out there’ communicating with others.
    Not that communicating with others is a bad thing, its just good to have a balance between time with other people and time with yourself. Time with youself could include meditation, relaxing, or if you are spiritual, even prayer. Having a good relationship with youself is important…it determines your outlook on life (attitude) and this attitude affects all areas of life, including professional and career life.

    From: Merydith W(Developing next generation leaders: New York & Adelaide at IB Coaching)

    Date: February 20, 2010
    To: Michael Chang

    Learn about the brain – neuroscience and start to use and understand cognitive behavior therapy. It is a powerful tool. In our third book, Back from Hell we have one chapter dedicated to it called CBT or CBT1.

    Books
    Sex in the Boardroom (leadership development)
    If it’s to be: It’s up to me
    Back from Hell

    Merydith had an article published in The Washington Post giving leaders tips on how to manage in the financial crisis

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    How to plan our life in order to live a successful and happy life

    The topic to talk about: how to plan our life in order to live a successful and happy life.

    This is Touchyourdream Space for passion and cocreation where we can talk about some topics through SNS and share mentors’ ideas and opinions with other people around the world.

    The topic is about ”how to plan our life in order to live a successful and happy life”.

    There are many mentors around us, whom we can easily contact through SNS. I asked the question about the aforementioned topic of them through Linkedin. You can recognize how much their ideas would be helpful for us. If you have some idea or opinion about this topic in consideration of the following answers, please leave your good comment in order to share it with other people in the world

    From: Natalia Vrouvaki(Managing Director at Alphatax Accounting & Consulting, Greece)
    Date: February 9, 2010
    To: Michael

    Dear Michael,
    I’m afraid happiness cannot be planned; most of the times, whatever you do, either right or wrong, there are so many sleazy factors it is impossible to predict what will happen.
    Happiness lies in everyday life, all you have to do is enjoy it. As far as success is concerned, that depends on how a single person defines it; is it making lots of money, having a great career / family or just working on something you love? You are the one to decide it.
    Of course you should do your best and avoid unnecessary risks, but even in that case no one can guarantee everything will turn out the way you want it. Planning means finding ways to go from point A to point B and further, so all you have to do is envision yourself in the future and do your best to become what you imagined, despite the odds.
    I wish you the best in whatever you do.

    Natalia

    From: John Zipp(Director of Education at Foundation for Stress Relief and Education)
    Date: February 10, 2010
    To: Michael
    There are a few simple steps you can take toward happiness. The thing is Michael, happiness is a never-ending journey and not a destination. You can”t plan to be happy. All you can do is try to be happy most of the time.

    The first thing you can do is find out what you love to do. If you are doing that now, great, if not, what is it? We spend so much time at work that if we don’t love it, our lives will show that.

    Second, focus on creating many magical moments. Too many times we focus on just acquiring things. We just want more stuff, thinking that will make us happy. I can tell you from experience that it is not the stuff that makes you happy, its the experiences you have. It’s those magic moments, like taking a walk down the beach with someone you love, seeing a child smile, or eating a great pizza.

    Third thing is not to stress about life. Stress is the opposite of happiness, it is fear. The less stressed you are in life, the better you feel. My focus for the past few years has been on helping people get out of stress. You can check out my website I linked for tips on that.

    I hope those things help. Happiness is just a state of mind and like all states of mind they are temporary, making them permanent is nearly impossible. So what we can do is strive to keep the up times of our lives longer and make the down times shorter. Pretty soon we won’t even notice the down times because they only will last a blink of an eye.

    Wishing you the best in your journey towards happiness,

    Dr. John Zipp

    From: Phyllis Reardon(Life Coach CoachPhyllis.com Inc.)
    Date: February 10, 2010
    To: Michael
    Michael, determine your life’s purpose. What do you really,really want? Then create your life plan in relation to this purpose. You use the word ‘our’ so create this plan in partenrship with the other person, people in your life but remember each and every person is unique and therefore their purpose will also be unique.

    I work with:
    Purpose…Plan….Persist……Succeed….Achieve Happiness……REPEAT, keep repeating!

    From: DAVE MASKIN(The WireMan at WireNames.com)
    Date: February 9, 2010
    To: Michael Chang

    Do what you love to make a living…

    From: Mike McRitchie(Director of Operations at RealCom Associates, LLC)
    Date: February 9, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Live for the moment.

    Contribute.

    Learn your values.

    Live your values.

    Plan your life around living your values.

    From: chenbagam pillai(Adviser in production at Dhanvanthri Nilayam Ayurveda Clinic)

    Date: February 9, 2010

    To: Michael Chang

    Choose a simple life. Don’t compare you with others. ‘Imitation is suicide’.
    ‘Peace of mind’ should be your target. There are lot of such people in our society. So you can aviod unnecessary stress in your life……

    With regards.

    From: Danielle Sikorski, MHRM(Member of this professional organization at Toastmasters International)
    Date: February 9, 2010
    To: Michael
    Michael,

    I have been reading a few books lately that address the challenge of leading a happy and successful life…I reccommend reading any one of these books which will give you some insight as to how to approach life to create for yourself meaning and purpose…which in turn will lead to a happy and successful life…

    1. Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R Covey
    2. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
    3. How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

    The main gist of all of these books is to focus on relationships, on having a positive attitude and on being proactive. Its about creating and keeping a positive attitude no matter what happens to you in life.

    Steven Covey in his book the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People makes a point to say this….” In the space between stimulus and response is the freedom to choose your response” – which basically means we can choose how we respond to what life throws at us. It is in our choice of response that we can become happy and successful. We are a product of our own choice.

    Also check out this video clip from Steven Covey on Success…

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8LM4C1l70U

    Hope this helps,

    Danielle

    From: Steve Nikolaou(Senior Architect at The Buchan Group)
    Date: February 9, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Live every day as if it were your  last.             
                                
    From: Rumyana Petkova(Independent Design Professional, Bulgaria)
    Date: February 11, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Depends on what do you mean with successful and happy life? I mean to say that some people are feeling happy with so many simple things like to see the sun and hear a bird’s song each day others are feeling happy to buy a new car, a big house… etc. The success is very general conception to the same reason.

    You have to find your own a way of life… Recommend you to read the books of James Redfield – The Celestine Prophecy… etc. A book that comes along just once in a lifetime to change lives forever. You have never read a book like this  before…

    From: Arti Dhar koul(Consultant at Barclays Capital, Singapore)

    Date: February 14, 2010

    To: Michael Chang

    Think success and happiness. Definition of success and happiness differs from person to person, need is to go inside the box. Think about yourself, your personality, your dreams, your desires, changes in your life, your drawbacks, likings and dislikings etc. Come out of box and define success and happiness and go ahead to achieve   it.
                                                                                                                                                                                                 
    From: Mukesh Rao(Group Manager at Wipro Technologies, India)
    Date: February 14, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Michael,

    very difficult to answer. There is no right or wrong answers. Each individual has his own definition of happiness. My definition of happiness is a peaceful and meaningful life i.e. should not be surrounded by anxiety, fear, hatered. Should have a purpose.
    Anxiety, fear and hatered are functions of how much we depend on others for our happiness. The lesser we do, more at peace we are.

    From: Mukesh Rao(Group Manager at Wipro Technologies, India)
    Date: February 14, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Michael,

    appreciate your thought process. I believe what you call plan for life, I call discipline. I also believe the need for a guru/ guide for a peaceful life. I found one many years back and continue to live happily following his methodology.

    Regards,

    Mukesh Rao

    From: Dave Mason(Owner at Phoenix Signs)
    Date: February 14, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    I would expect this type of question to be right up the alley of a “think tank” like yours.

    When you figure it out, let us know!

    From: Tim(TGIFF) Tymchyshyn(proud owner of a Jerry Rice/Joe Montana autographed football, Canada)
    Date: February 14, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    you keep your head up and your stick on ice.             
                                                                                                                   
    From: Kathleen Black Reynolds(Attorney at Law Office of Mark Alan Perkins)
    Date: February 16, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Success is getting what you want; happiness and peace are accepting what you have. -Dan Millman
                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
    From: Sabyasachi Nag(Engineering Director at Magma-DA, India)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Hmmm … it’s quite difficult to be successful and happy at the same time. Very few people can achieve that. The problem is simple – for success, you have to chase “more” and to be happy, you have to chase “less”. How could one chase “more” and “less” at the same time ? Success keeps you unhappy all the time while happiness slows down your success run.
    One alternative you may try is this. Chase “more” and get them – this ensures your success. But once you get them, share them with the society/community so that you end up with “less”. This will buy you happiness. Then again allow your greed to take over and keep repeating this cycle until it becomes a way of life. 
                                                                              
    From: Neha Kaushal(HR Consultant at GlobalHunt India Pvt Ltd, India)
    Date: February 17, 2010
    To: Michael Chang
    Hey Michael

    Hope you are doing great!!!
    My answer will be:
    – Don’t Compare yourself with others
    – Have a Positive attitude
    – Love yourself only then you will be able to love others & Humanity

    & last but not the least don’t plan just do it. :

    See I have a lil different opinion plans are important but many times situations in life come when you don’t get time to plan but you need to act. So all above help to act & act in a right way.

    Cheers
    Neha Kaushal

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